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Jill P. Weber Ph.D.Having Sex, Wanting Intimacy … because you can’t move on to something better until you let yourself grieve While managing a divorce or breakup, many women tell me that they drive themselves crazy with the realization that their former partner “seems fine” and has apparently moved on. They obsessively criticize their own very normal grief processes, asking themselves: “What’s wrong with me that I’m so upset?”; “I should be further along by now”; ”How is it that he seemed to love me so...read more
Susan Noonan MD View From the Mist Losses that require a grieving process. I had an interesting conversation the other day about the losses we all experience when receiving a diagnosis of mental illness such as depression or bipolar disorder. Yes, losses. At first glance it seems unfair, given that there is such a large burden to carry with the illness. But it does happen and is something we need to acknowledge and deal with, otherwise the effect of these losses will come back to haunt you. What do I mean by losses? Well, it could be...read more
Marilyn A. Mendoza Ph.D.Understanding Grief What Parents Can Do “The Three Faces of Eve,” an actual account of an emotionally disturbed young woman in therapy, was a popular book and movie in the 1950’s. It first introduced the public to the concept of multiple personality disorder or as it is referred to today, Dissociative IdentityDisorder. In Eve’s breakthrough therapy moment, she goes back to an early repressed trauma at the age of six of being forced by her mother to kiss her dead grandmother goodbye. It was her grief and terror that led...read more
Ryan M. Niemiec Psy.D.What Matters Most? Learn a practical approach to stress from a leading scientist. I love the metaphor that the New Year is a book with 365 blank pages and it is up to us what we will write on each page of our new book. What experiences will be part of each page? Who will we be with? How might we create, have fun, or connect with others? As of the writing of this post, we are on the 6th page of our book this year. But, for many of us, this metaphor falls flat because we face plenty of stress, distractions, and challenges...read more
Peter A. Ubel M.D.Critical Decisions How to Stop Over-Eating: Lessons From Brain Science Put our brains into the modern food environment, and you have a recipe for disaster. Our brains are hardwired to crave calorie-dense foods, this craving no doubt arising from our evolutionary time spent on the Tundra where calories were often scarce. But our modern food environment surrounds us with calorie-dense foods, forcing us to deplete limited willpower trying to keep our cravings from turning into over-consumption. Fortunately, brain science hints...read more