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Why Trauma Can Feel “Stuck”
Trauma can make you feel frozen in place. As a result, life may stop moving forward in the way you want. In many cases, the mind and body try to protect you by pushing memories away. However, that suppression often keeps the pain active in the background.
Common ways unresolved trauma shows up:
- Intensifying memories.Over time, traumatic memories can feel more vivid and emotional.
- Rising distress.Consequently, anxiety and emotional pain may increase rather than fade.
- Intrusions.At unexpected moments, trauma can resurface as flashbacks or intrusive thoughts.
- Body symptoms.Meanwhile, the body may respond with chronic pain, fatigue, or other stress‑related issues.
- Unhelpful coping.When suppression becomes the main strategy, healthy processing is blocked.
- Triggers.Finally, reminders of the event can quickly lead to fear, helplessness, or shame.
How EMDR Therapy Helps with Trauma
EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is an evidence‑based therapy for trauma and PTSD. Instead of avoiding the past, EMDR helps you safely process it so it loses its grip.
Key ways EMDR supports healing:
- Desensitization of traumatic memories.During sessions, you briefly recall the event while using bilateral stimulation (often eye movements). As a result, the emotional intensity decreases.
- Reprocessing distorted beliefs.Because trauma often changes self‑beliefs (e.g., “I’m unsafe” or “I’m unworthy”), EMDR helps replace them with more accurate, adaptive beliefs.
- Accessing adaptive information.Through guided processing, you can see the event from a new, less distressing perspective. Consequently, the memory fits into a healthier life story.
- Reducing PTSD symptoms.For many people, flashbacks, intrusive memories, and nightmares decline after a relatively short series of sessions.
- Processing what’s out of awareness.Sometimes, EMDR brings forward memories or feelings that were partially repressed. By addressing them, their daily impact diminishes.
- Improving emotional regulation.Over time, you learn to manage intense feelings with more steadiness and control.
- Working in a safe environment.From the start, sessions focus on safety and pacing so you never feel pushed beyond your window of tolerance.
- Restoring a sense of control.Ultimately, EMDR helps you regain agency over your memories and emotions.
- Efficient progress.Compared with some talk therapies, EMDR can produce relief in fewer sessions.
- Whole‑person healing.Because EMDR integrates thoughts and emotions, it supports deeper, longer‑lasting change.
- Non‑invasive care.Importantly, there are no medications involved in EMDR itself.
- Customized treatment.Throughout care, your therapist adapts the protocol to your needs and pace.
Long‑Term Benefits of EMDR
- Better coping skills.With practice, you build practical tools for stress and anxiety.
- Stronger self‑esteem.As you process memories, a more positive self‑view becomes possible.
- Fewer PTSD symptoms.In many cases, flashbacks, nightmares, and intrusive thoughts decrease.
- Healthier relationships.As regulation improves, connection and empathy often increase.
- Higher quality of life.When root causes are addressed, there’s more energy for goals and joy.
- Resilience for the future.Finally, EMDR skills help you face new challenges more confidently.
What to Expect When Starting EMDR
- Initial evaluation.First, we meet for one or two sessions to understand your history, goals, and strengths.
- Number of sessions.Because trauma can be layered, multiple sessions are common.
- Session length.Typically, early EMDR sessions run about 75 minutes so there’s time to process and re‑ground.
- Frequency.To maintain momentum, weekly sessions are often recommended at the start.
- Progress checks.Along the way, we review what’s changing and adjust your plan as needed.
EMDR and Your Mental Health Journey
As healing unfolds, deeper issues may surface that also deserve care. To prevent relapse, ongoing support can reinforce new patterns and skills. Most importantly, you’ll work with a trained professional who provides safety, structure, and compassion—so you can do deeper work at a sustainable pace.
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What is EMDR?
EMDR is a structured, eight‑phase therapy that uses bilateral stimulation (often eye movements) to help the brain reprocess traumatic memories so they are less distressing.
Do I have to relive my trauma in detail?
No. In fact, EMDR focuses on targeted pieces of the memory while keeping you grounded and within your tolerance.
How long does EMDR take?
It varies. However, many people notice relief within several sessions, while complex trauma may require longer care.
Is EMDR safe?
Yes, when delivered by a trained clinician. To support safety, we build stabilization skills before and during processing.
Who benefits most?
People with PTSD, anxiety, grief, and other trauma‑related symptoms often benefit. Additionally, first responders and medical professionals frequently find EMDR helpful.
Take the Next Step
Healing from trauma is possible. If you’re ready, contact Pathways Counseling Services in Scottsdale for a free 15‑minute consultation to discuss whether EMDR is right for you.
Contact us or request an appointment.
Clinical References
- A Flash of Hope — Discussion of EMDR’s effectiveness for trauma.
- State of the Science: Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) Therapy — Wiley Online Library.
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Clinical references:
A Flash Of Hope – discussion of the effectiveness of EMDR in the treatment of trauma
State of the science: Eye Movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) therapy from the Wiley Online Library
Pathways Counseling Services is the top-rated therapy and counseling service in Scottsdale, Arizona, year after year. We can help you change the impact of trauma in your life. Find a happier and healthier life through effective mental health care. Remember, there is help and support available to you. We are here for you. You can reach us by phone at 480-235-1682or send us a message.